• Calling bad names or putting someone down
• Shouting and cursing
• Hitting, slapping and/or pushing
• Making threats of any kind
• Jealousy and suspicion
• Keeping someone away from family and friends - isolation
• Throwing things around the house

To recognize whether your partner is abusing you, ask whether your partner:

• Embarrasses you with put-downs?
• Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you?
• Controls what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
• Stops you from seeing your friends or family members?
• Takes your money, makes you ask for money or refuses to give you money?
• Makes all of the decisions?
• Tells you that you’re a bad parent or threatens to take away or hurt your children?
• Prevents you from working or attending school?
• Acts like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even denies doing it?
• Destroys your property or threatens to kill your pets?
• Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons?
• Shoves you, slaps you, chokes you or hits you?
• If you have contacted law enforcement, forces you to try and drop charges?
• Threatens to commit suicide?
• Threatens to kill you?